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Rm Rm\mbn Xocp- -sx-ßs\? Jc. Nijoy P. Jose, Head Trainer, JCI ""Rm bym -Øn F m-twm, AXm-Im Ign-bp- n '-. Acq-]n-bpsS aq mw {]mhnse B {Uqkv tkhy-dns k -S-Øn \n pw XpS-ßmw. Rm Fßs\ Cß-s\-bmbn? Ch /Chƒ Fßs\ Cß-s\-bmbn? Fs ms IpSpw-_-Po-hn-X-Øntem HutZym-KnI Pohn-X-Øntem Ft m-sg- nepw \mw Nn n- n- p- m- Ipw. CXn c m-asø tnmzy-øn\v DØcw Is -Øm Ffp- -am-wv. AXv \Ωƒ snøp- p-ap- v. Hcp ZrIvkm n-bpss \njv] hymjym\w AhnsS km y-hp-am-wv. ]t Rm Fßs\ Cß-s\-bmbn F p- Xv Hcp tnmzy-nn- -ambn ]e-t mgpw Ah-ti-jn- pw. "Rm ' F Rm "a p- -h Im si-bp- Xv \ns kz`m-hw. Bcpw ImWm-Ø-t m-gp- Xv \ns hy nxzw'. Fhn-sStbm hmbn- -Xm-Wv. \Ωƒ I p-ap- p hy n- Ah-\-h-\m-bn- Øo-cm Hmtcm hy nbv pw Ign-b-Ww. ]pgp ]qºm- -bm-bn-øocp- -Xp-t]m-se. Iƒ -\p-k-cn v \ΩpsS coxn-iƒ \mw am p- p- v. Hcp Db DtZym- K-ÿ-t\mSpw _kv I -IvS-tdm-Spw, {]mbw sn -h-tcm-spw, sim p-ip- n-i-tfmspw \mw CS-s]-Sp coxnbpw \ΩpsS ]Z-{]-tbm-K-ß-fpw-t]mepw hyxym-k-s - n-cn- pw. F mw AtX "Rm ' Xs. Fs kz`mhw amdp- p. ]t Fs hy nxzw AXn-\- p-d-øm-wv. AXv ]pdøv {]I-Sn- n- p- -Xp-am-{X-a- ; AIØv Hfn- p-in-s- p Xpw IqSn-bm-Wv. Npcp- -Øn Bcpw ImWm- -t mƒ Rm Fs m-s -bm-twm, AXmWv Rm. AXp-sIm- mwv Hcm-fpsS {]I-S-\-߃s m v (hm- v, {]hr-øn) t]mepw B hy nsb hne-bn-cp-øcpxv F v ]d-bp- -Xv. ImcWw Ah / Ahƒ F mtwm \ΩpsS apºn ImWn- m B{K-ln- p- -Xv, AXp-am-{X-amWv {]I-Sn- n- p- -Xv, A]q w kml-n-cy-ß-fn kzbw ad- p {]h Ø-\-߃ D m-bm t]mepw. Hcmƒ pw Xm\m-hm-Xn-cn- m ] n ; Nne-t m-sg- n-epw. Ccp- p-ap-dn-bn hf Ø-s - Sp Hcp snsnsb \nco- n- p-i. ssph-h-fhpw cmk-hfhpw C p-sim-sp-ømepw aq ns tamt m sim v \mep-t\cw sh -sam-gn- mepw AXn\v Hcp kz]v\-ta-bp- q. api-fn-ep HmSns hn -en-eqss Fßs\sb nepw ]pd-øp-i-s- p-i. Ah-\-h-\m-bn-Øo-cm Hmtcm hy nbv pw Ign-b-Ww. ]pgp ]qºm- -bm-bn-øo-cp- -Xp-t]m-se. F\n v Rm\m-Im ] m-øxv F p-sim v? Hmtcm hy nbpw Hcp \n n-x-im-e-l w Xm\m-bn-Øs XpS-cp- p v Ip n- mew. F\n v Rm\m-Im A\p-hm-Zhpw kzx{ hpw e`n- p Imew. ]ns Hmtcm kabøpw AXn-t -Xmb \nb-{ -W-߃, coxn-iƒ. a p- -hsc {]oxn-s -Sp-tØ- n-h-cp Rm Fs - n-ep-sams Bbo-Øo-c-W-sa- n Bsc-sb- n-ep-sams kt m-jn- n- msx ] n- F [mcw ]cs \n p- p- v. Iogp-tZym-K-ÿ taep-tzym-k-ÿsc kt m-jn- n- p- Xv am{x-a-, taep-tzym-k-ÿ v Xncn pw {]ow-\-\-b-an- msx ]nsn- p-\n m-\m-hn-. {][m-\-a{ n apx ]yq -hsc Cu bmym ysø FXn p-sa p txm p- n-. A ym-]-isc {]oxn-s -SpØn Ct -W am p-hm-ßp Ip n-iƒ, Ip n-isf IqsS \n ØmsX iºfw hmßm t]mepw ] msx hcp A ym-]-i, "awn-bsn'bmwv {]mtbm- Kn-IX F p a\- n-em- n, "Xmev]-cy-ap- m-bn- ; Imcyw \S- t ' F p hne-]n- p ssi qen/t\m p-iqen hntcm-[n-iƒ P\-ß-fpsS CjvS-a-\p-kn-c v ]ms -gp-xp- -hcpw kwkoxw \ Ip- -hcpw F mhscbpw Bscm-s tbm kzm[o-\n- p- p, Hmtcm-cp-Øcpw 1

Bscm-s tbm Bbn-Øo-cp- p. ^ew Xocp-am-\-ß-sf-Sp- m ] mø \b-x-{ - -cpw, \S- n-em- m ] mø A[n-Im-cn-I-fpw, \ne-]m-sp-i-fn- mø hy n-i-fpw. Fs - n-ep-sams kz w hy n-xz-øn-\p-s-a-bm-b-xn-\p-tijw acn- m km[n- p F{X t]cp- mipw temi- Øn? a p- -h-cpss {]Xo- -Iƒs møp Pohn-t - n-h-cp Rm. Fhn-sS- n-ep-sams FØn-t -cpi F Xv ]e pw a m-cp-ss-sbm-s tbm {]Xo- -I-fpsS _m n-]-{x-am-wv. CXv ]q Æ-ambpw sxs p ]d-bm-\m-hn-. a p- -h-cpss kz]v\- ߃ Nne-t m-sgms {]tnm-z-\-hp-am-imw. B\n k n-h sle si v cq]-s -Sp-Ønb-Xp-t]mse. Aß-s\-bp- -h a p- -h v {]Xo- -Iƒ \ Ip-I-bmWv snbvx-xv. A msx Xß-fpsS kz]v\-ß-fn-te v Ahsc hen- -Sp- n- p-i-b-. Np p-ap- -h-cpss {]Xo- -I-fn-te v HXp-ßn- q-snb hy n-bmtwm Rm? amxm-]n- Xm- ƒ {]Xo- n- p- Xv Bbn-Øo-cm {ian- p a ƒ, a -fpss \ne-hm-c-øn-s\møv Db-cm {ian p amxm-]n-xm- ƒ, Bƒ q- -Øns {]Xo Im p P\-{]-Xn-\n-[n-Iƒ, F n-t\-sd, t\xm-hns kz]v\w k^-e-am- m Nmth-dp-I-fm-Ip AWn-Iƒ hsc. F mhcpw-iqsn Xß-fp-tS-X- mø Hcp temiw krjvsn- p- p. a p- -h-cpss kz]v\-ßsf km[q-i-cn- p-i-bmtwm Rm Ct mƒ snøp- Xv? F\n v Ft -Xmb {]Xo- -Ifpw kz]v\-ß-fp-apt m? B {]Xo- -Isf ]n p-w-bv p hm p- Ifpw {]h Øn-I-fp-amtWm Rm ]n p-s-cp- Xv? a p- -hsc A\p-I-cn- p Rm s]mxp-p-\sø ssa pw tãppw D]-tbm-Kn- mø anan{in B nãpiƒ F p hntijn- n- mw. DW-cp- -Xp-ap-X Bsc-sbm-s -tbm, F n-s\sbm-s tbm A\p-I-cn p Pohn- p- -h. tkm v txbv p- Xv sfizcy dmbn-sb-t m-se-bm-im, FÆ txbv p- Xv {]nbma-wn-bm-im, Blmcw k n ss p -dm-im, \nt ]w \S-Øp- Xpw taml em-ens\ icn-h-bv m. tamsn-]n-sn- n- {]{In-b-I-fn am{x-amwv A\p-I-c-W-sa v Icp-Xm hø. ]mc-º-cy-ß-sfbpw ioe-ß-sfbpw am{xw apdpsi ]nsn- p- -h-cp- v. "BZn-ap-X t ' D {]k- tam A{]-k- tam Bb Imcy-ß-fpsS ]p\-c-h-x-cww \S-ØpI am{x-amwv C q-. Hcp Xcw A\p-I-cWw. kz -ambn, ]pxp-xmbn H pw snøm-\n-jvss -SmØ C q- -cpss KW-Øn Rm\pw s]sptam? ax, kmwkvim-cn- I, cmjv{sob t\xr-\n-c-bnse Hcp henb hn`mkw Xs Cß-s\-bm- Ip- Xv aqew krjvsn- -s -Sp- Xv Bh Ø-\-hn-c-kX am{xw. Bƒ q- -Øns ]ndsi t]mip- -h-cp-ap v A\p-I-c-W-Øns as mcp apjw. \ΩpsS F Pn-\o-b-dnw-Kv, saun- timtf-pp-i-fnse "Xnc v' Xs CXn-\p-Zm-l-c-Ww. Bƒ q- -Øn\p \Sp-hn ampniv tjm D m-bn-cp ]gb _kv Ãm Up t]mse. {]th-i\w t\sp- -h-cpss ] ni am{xw {]kn- o-i-cn- p- Xv \ m-bn. hnp-bn v ]pd-øn-d-ßp- -h-cpss ] ni t\m n-bm Zpcn-Xhpw Zpc- hpw ]q Æ-ambn a\- n-em-ipw. Ah-km\w Hmtcm-cp-Øcpw FØnt -cm B{K-ln- mø ÿeøv FØp- p. Ah-\-h A m-xm-bn-øo-cp- p. Rm Ct mƒ Rm B{K-ln ÿeøv/coxn-bn BtWm? Rm Rm Xs -bmtwm? Rm Rm\m-bn-Øo-cm Rm Ct mƒ Rm B{K-ln ÿeøv/coxnbn BtWm? Rm Rm Xs -bmtwm? kzbw Adn-bp-I, hniz-kn- p-i, A`n-am-\n- p-i. Fs a p- -h a\- n-em- -W-sa v ]d-bp- Xv hnuvvn-ø-c-am-wv. Imc-Ww, Fs - n a p- -h Adn-b-W-sa v Rm B{K-ln- p Imcy-߃ am{xta Rm ]pdøp ImWn- m-dp- q. AXp-sIm v Fs a\- n-em- m Ign-bp GI hy n Rm am{x-am-bn-cn- pw. F\n v Fs Adn-bmtam F -Xp-X-s -bmwv HmtcmcpØ-cp-sSbpw G hpw henb 2

{]iv\w. ]pd-øp-\n v B n-s -Sp-Ø-h-bpsS hen- -tø- mƒ D n \n pw ]pd-tøbv p hcp- -h-bpss KpW-\n-e-hm-csØ B{i-bn- mwv Rm hne-bn-cp-ø-s -Sp- -Xv. \n `m-ky-him kzb-a-dn-bm-\p Hcp th-zn-t]mepw ]pkvx-i-ß-fn-eq-sstbm A m-sxtbm e`n- m-sxbmwv \ΩpsS hnzym-`ymk k{º-zm-b-øn \n pw Hmtcm hy nbpw kzx-{ -\m-ip- -Xv. \Ωƒ ]Tn-bv p- Xpw \Ω-tfmSp tnmzn- p- -Xp-sa mw a p- -h-sc- p-dn pw a p- -h-sb- p-dn- pw. h j-߃ p-ti-jap Adnhp kºm-z-\-øn-\p-tijw sxmgn-e-t\z-j- I p A`n-ap-J-]-co- -bpss BZy-tNmZyw kzbw ]cn- N-b-s -Sp-ØpI (Introduce yourself) tiƒ p-tºmƒ Xs \mw Aº-c p t]mip- -Xns Imc-Whpw as m- -. {]tnm-z-\m-fli ]pkvx-i-ßfpw ]cn-io-e\ ]cn-]m-sn-ifpw kzbw Adn-hn-te v \bn- pw. Adn-hns\ {]mtbm-kni Xe- Øn sim p-h-cp-tºmƒ kzm`m-hn-i-ambn Dcp-Øn-cn-bp- - XmWv kzbw hnizm-kw. \mw thsdmcp hy nsb hniz-kn- p- Xpw Abm-fpsS {]h Ø-\-ßfpw coxnbpw a\- n-em- n-b-xn-\p-ti-j-am-wv. F\n v F n hnizmkw txm p F p {]h Ø-\-ß-fmWv Rm snøp- Xv? Fs hy n-ap{z ]Xn-bp {]h Ø-\-߃ p-th n Hcp {ia-sa- nepw Rm \S-Øm-dpt m? F n hnizm-ka n v Rm snbvx {]h Ø-\-ß-sfbpw F\n- p- mb t\ -ß-sfbpw Ipdn v F\n- p- m-ip hnim-c-amwv Bflm-`n-am-\w. It dp-isf I Øq-Wp-I-fm n ku[w ]Wn-bp- hs \n -b-zm Vyw; A -hn-izm-k-ßsf Bfl-hn-izmkw sim v Iog-S- n-b-hs Xo vwx; ImgvN- m-sp-isf Imev]m-Sp-I-fm n hgn-sx-fn- -hs I tωm- p-ix Fs Rm\m n Xo p- Xv Fs hnizmk {]am-w-ß-fn-e-[n-jvtn-x-amb I Ω-ß-fm-Wv. Fs Rm\m n Xo p Hcp Kpcp-hp- m-bn-cn- p-i. Hcp kplrøv D m-ip- -Xn-t\- mƒ {][m-\-amwv Hcp Kpcp-hp- m-ip-i. kplr-øn\v IqsS \S- m-t\- I-gnbq; Kpcp-hn\v aptº \S- m-\m-ipw. Kpcp-hm-bn-Øo-cpI F -Xn-t\- mƒ _p n-ap- mwv Kpcp-hp- m-bn-cn- pi F -Xv. Adn-hp-sIm pw A\p-`hw sim pw Kpcp-hm- Imw. Hcmƒ as m-cmsf Kpcp-hmbn kzoi-cn- pi F Xp Xs "{]mtbm-kn-i'-a-s p Icp- Xp-sa- nepw hf -bpss Bcw-`-am-W-Xv. a ]m-{x-ß-fpss ta aæns KpW-sØ- m-fp- ]cn Ipi-hs Ic-hn-cp-Xn-em-Wv. I s in WØn hf-cp- -bmƒ as mcp I -\m-im- \p km[y-x-tb-bp- q. ] m-f-nn- -bn hf-cp- -h v AtX coxn-i-fp- m-ipw. Rm F p ]Tn- p p, F p snøp p F p- Xv Rm BcpsS in -W-Øn-em-bn-cp p F -Xns\ B{i-bn- m-wv. Kpcp-hn-s\-t m-se-bm-ip- -Xn-t\- mƒ Fs Rm\m n ]Tn- n- p- -Xnt\- mƒ ]mt-am- Ip Kpcp- - msc-bmwv Rm\mbn-Øo-cm F\n- m-hiyw. It dp-isf I Øq-Wp-Ifm n ku[w ]Wn-bp- hs \n -b-zm Vyw; A - hn-izm-k-ßsf Bfl-hnizmkw sim v Iog-S- n-bhs Xo vwx; ImgvN- m- Sp-Isf Imev]m-Sp-I-fm n hgn-sx-fn- -hs I tωm- p- IX Fs Rm\m n Xo p- Xv Fs hnizmk {]am-w-ß-fn-e-[n-jvtn-x-amb I Ω-ß-fm-Wv. Xo p Kpcp-hn-s\-bmWv F\n v th -Xv. a p- -h-cpss {]Xo- - Iƒs m-øp-b-cp-tºmƒ am{xw Iø-Sn- p P\- q- -tø- mƒ Fs Ign-hns ]c-am-h[n ]pd-øp-h-cp-tºmƒ Iø-Sn- p Hcp Kpcp F\n- p- m-i-ww. Zqsc t]mim-sx, sxm -SpØp \n msx (Cu c p coxn-bnepw Fs ImWm Ign-bn- ), amdn-\n v Fs hf -bn A`n-am\w sim p-ibpw Xf -bn Bfl-ss[cyw ]I-cp-Ibpw snøp Hcp Kpcp-hm-IWw Fs i n. Ch c pw snøm Ignbp Kpcp- - m-cp-s - n hy nxzw \jvs-s -SmsX Pohn- m km[n- p [mcmfw hy n-iƒ D m-ipw. ]Tn- n- p- -Xn-t\- mƒ ]mt-am-ip Kpcp- - msc-bmwv Rm\m-bn-Øo-cm F\n- m-hiyw. 3

Rm hf-cp- p v F p-d p hcp-øp-i. Fw.-_n.-_n.-F-kv. ]q Øn-bm- p-tºmƒ Hcmƒ tumivs-dm-bn-øo-cpw. ]t tumivs-dmbn Xocp-tºmƒ Ah-km-\n- p- -X Abm-fpsS hf. k\ym-kn-bm-bn- Øo-cp- n-søv Hcm-fpsS Bflo-b-Xbpw Ah-km-\n- m ]msn-. Fs m-s tbm Bbn- Øo s v A`n-am-\n- p-itbm Al- -cn- p-itbm snøp-tºm-gmwv hf apc-sn- p- -Xv. Becoming may be easy; Being is difficult. Bbn-Øo-cp- -Xn\p apºp hf AXn-\ptijw Rm ImWn- p- pt m F Xp Xs -bmwv {][m-\w. ` Ømhv/`mcy Bb-Xn-\pti-j-tam, A /AΩ Bb-Xn-\p-ti-jtam s{]m^-j-w Bb-Xn ]ns tbm Rm hfcp- pt m. AtXm ]q Æ-h-f {]m]n Xns kpjm-\p-`-h-øn ]ns -bp h j߃ X n-\o- p-i-bm-twm. Aß-s\-sb- n ho pw Rm Rm\ mxmbn Xocp- p. sam v ]qhm-bn-øo-cp- Xv t\m n \n mepw ImWm Ign-bn-. ]t hncn p \n p ]qhn\v kpk w ]c-øm-xn-cn- mt\m kt mjw \ Im-Xn-cn- mt\m Ign-bn-. Rm hf-tc- Xpw Rm\mbn Xotc- Xpw Cß-s\-bt Rmt\m a p- -htcm Adn-bmsX Rm\mbn amdn Fs km n- y-a-dn-bn- -Ø- -hn-[-øn ]q Æ-h-f FØpI F Xv imco-cn-i-ambn am{xw kw`-hn-t Hcp {]{In-b-b-t. {]mb-]q Øn-bp-sSbpw ]Iz-X-bp-sSbpw IS-º-Iƒ ]e-xhw IS v sxmgn-en \n v hnc-an- p hy n-bp-ssbpw Nn -Iƒ hf-ct? a\ v hnime-am-it? {]mb-]q Øn F k ev]w t]mepw thm -h-im-i-øn\pw hnhm-l-øn\pw CXc kmt -Xn-Im-h-iy-߃ pw th n am{xap -X-t. P\-\-k n-^n- - ns ASn-ÿm-\-Øn F\n v {]mbw XnI- mepw Fs X\-Xmb Nn -I-fpw, ssien- Ifpw F\n- n-s - n Rm Rm\m-Ip- -sx-ßs\? {]mb-øns\m w t]mepw hf-cp- n F p- -Xm-Wt m \ap v as m-cm-sfhr w hf-cp- -Xpt]mse hf-cww p-dn- p G hpw {][m-\-s ]cm-xnifn-sem- v. Hmtcm Znh-kw Nn -Iƒ BImisØ txsp-tºmƒ, thcp-iƒ Bgßsf kv] in- Ww. IqSp-X Pohn- p-tºmgpw Bbp- nse Hcp Znhkw Ipd-bp p F - XmWv bym yw. Hmtcm C -sebpw simgn-bp-tºmƒ F n \n pw Fs - n-ep-sam-s, Rm CjvS-s -Sm-ØtXm F\n v D]- I-cn- m-ø-txm, simgn- p-t]m-ip- pt m? F n Rm hf-cp- p- v. Hmtcm \mtfbv pw th n ImØn-cn- p-tºmƒ ]pxp-xmbn Fs - nepw B n- -W-sa a\-s - nepw F n cq]-s -Sp- pt m? F n Rm hf-cp- p- v. hr w hf-cp- -Xp-t]mse hf-cww Nn -Iƒ BImisØ txsp-tºmƒ, thcp-iƒ Bg-ßsf kv] in- Ww. api-fn-te pw Xmtg pw Hcp-t]mse Rm hf-cp- pt m? F\n v \ne-]m-sp-iƒ D m-i-ww. hy n-sbbpw hy n-xz-søbpw a\-im-kv{x-]-c-ambn ]e-co-xn-bnepw Af- m-sa- nepw {]mtbm-kn-i-ambn Hcp hy nsb hne-bn-cp-øp- Xv B hy n ]n p-s-cp \ne-]m-sp-isf ASn-ÿm-\-am- n-bm-wv. Alnw-kbvs -Xnsc Km npn; Agn-a-Xn-s -Xnsc lkmsc; ]mh-߃ p- \p-tijw C\n c - Pmen-b hm-em-_m-knth n az sxtckm \ne-]m-sp-iƒ Hmtcm hy nbv pw cq]w bn F p ]d v \ Ip- p. _n em-zs\ s]mxp-p\w FXn p- Xv At±-l- taml Zmkv Icw-Nµv Øns Xo{h-hmZ A\p-Iqe \ne-]m-sn-t\m-sp FXn v At? Km n txms -Sp-Øncp-s - n \ap v F\n v Dd \ne-]m-sp-iƒ Dt m? Fs \ne-]m-sp-iƒ Fs bpw Np p-]m-sp-ap- -h-scbpw {Iobm-fl-I-ambn cq]-s -Sp-Øp- "Km npn'sb \jvss -Sp-am-bn-cp- p. pt m? hy n-iƒ pw kml-n-cy-߃ -\p-k-cn v Rm \ne- ]m-sp-iƒ am m-dpt m (F- n Ah \ne-]m-sp-itf A ). Pmenb hm-em-_m-kn-\p-tijw C\n c -bn F p ]d v taml Zmkv Icw-Nµv Km n txms -Sp-Øn-cp-s - n \ap v "Km npn'sb \jvs-s -Sp-ambn-cp- p. Fs \ne-]m-sp-iƒ Fs Rm\m n Xo p- p. Rm hf-cp- Xpw cq]-s -Sp- 4

Xpw Fs \ne-]m-sp-i-fn-eq-ss-bmwv \nc- -c-ambn ]pe Øp Htc \ne-]m-sn-eq-ss, Ahk-c-߃ \p-k-cn v, Bfp-Iƒ -\p-k-cn v amdm-xn-cn- p \ne-]m-sp-i-fn-eq-ss. \ne-]m-sp-iƒ XnI pw hy n-]-c-am-sw- nepw Ah-bpsS kmaq-ly-h-ihpw {]k- - am-wv. "Alnwk' "Km npn'bptsxv Bbn-cp-s - nepw AXv Hcp tzi-øns kzmx-{ y- Øn\pw AXns apt m- p {]bm-w-øn\pw D]-I-cn p F -XmWv {it -bw. Fs \ne- ]m-sp-i-fpss kmaq-lni hiw F v? Ah hy n-x-e-øn-\- pdw Np p-]m-sp-ap h v D]-Icn- p- -Xm-tWm? Fs \ne-]m-sp-iƒ "\ne-\n ]n\p' klm-bn- p- -Xn-t\- m-fp-]cn \nehn-ep Ah-ÿsb IqSp-X sa -s - -Xm- p- -Xm-h-Ww. F\n v Rm\m-bn-Øo-cm Ign-bp- n-s - n Rm Bscm-s -bm-bn pw Fhn-sSsbms bmbn pw F p Imcyw? Rm B-bn-cn- p- -Xns s]mcpƒ F v? 5